5 Ways To Help Your Toddler Become More Independent

As your little one grows up you will need to teach them how to do everyday tasks by themselves, like getting dressed, eating breakfast, and putting their things away. It develops their independence and prepares them for nursery school, where you will not be around to help. In this post we share guidance from a nursery in North London on how you can go about building a toddler’s independence. 

May your coffee be stronger than your threenager

Let’s not kid ourselves, toddlers, are mini dictators sometimes, and then other times they are clingy and needy. Life with a toddler is never dull. The terrible twos are swiftly followed by the threenager phase, hastily overtaken by the next one, when your cute little baby is suddenly a fournado! But sometimes, they need a little encouragement. So here are some great tips on how to encourage your toddler to become more independent.

Start Small

Baby steps are key. The tasks you let your toddler do by themselves must be according to where they are in their development as otherwise, they will only be confused and overwhelmed by it all. Start by setting them small tasks, like finding their shoes and putting them over their feet before you can work them up to more complex tasks. You might also ask them to give you a hand with certain things so that they can practise and slowly build confidence. 

Be Patient

You mustn’t also rush them as this can add unnecessary stress. Your child will ultimately not enjoy the process and the tasks that you are getting them to complete. Instead, give your child the time and space to get the hang of things and gently guide them where they go wrong. 

Allow for Mistakes

They will likely make mistakes, and it’s part of the learning process. It can be beneficial and teach them more than they would otherwise have to get everything done perfectly the first time. The way you respond to their mistakes is equally important as if you’re very critical, your child may be fearful to try new things and have a go. Instead, give them the “freedom to fail”.

Positive Reinforcement

It’s important that you get behind your child if there’s something that they want to do. Use positive reinforcement by telling them that you believe in them and that they are capable of doing the things they want. If they’re not ready, however, explain to your child that they are not ready yet as telling a child they “can’t” can be discouraging. 

Try Not to Belittle Your Children

Remember, children all develop at their own pace. Whilst others their age may be able to do things all by themselves, your child may not be there yet and that’s okay. Understand that your child is on their own journey and avoid comparing them to others as this can affect their confidence and willingness to learn.

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Encouraging independence in toddlers is essential to their development and helps them become confident, self-reliant individuals. Here are some more practical tips that you as a parent can do to foster independence in your toddler:

  1. Offer Choices: Allow toddlers to make simple decisions, such as selecting their clothes or choosing between two snack options. This empowers them and gives them a sense of control over their environment.
  2. Create a Safe Environment: Ensure your home is child-friendly and safe, so toddlers can explore freely without constant supervision. Baby-proofing and removing hazards can help them navigate their surroundings independently.
  3. Encourage Self-Help Skills: Teach basic self-help skills, such as dressing themselves, putting away toys, and feeding themselves. While it may be slower at first, it builds their confidence and competence.
  4. Establish Routines: Routines provide structure and predictability, which can be reassuring for toddlers. Encourage them to follow simple daily routines like brushing teeth, washing hands, or setting the table.
  5. Support Problem-Solving: When toddlers encounter challenges or conflicts, avoid immediately stepping in to solve the problem. Instead, ask open-ended questions to encourage them to think critically and find solutions.
  6. Allow for Unstructured Play: Unstructured playtime allows toddlers to explore their creativity and interests. Offer a variety of toys and materials to spark their imagination.
  7. Praise Effort and Persistence: Celebrate their efforts rather than just the outcome. Positive reinforcement for trying new tasks will encourage them to keep exploring and learning.
  8. Teach Basic Safety Rules: As they grow more independent, ensure toddlers understand basic safety rules, such as crossing the road, using playground equipment properly, and being cautious around strangers.
  9. Be Patient and Allow Time: Becoming independent is a gradual process. Be patient with your child’s learning curve and give them time to practice and master new skills.
  10. Model Independence: Toddlers often imitate what they see. Demonstrate independence in your own actions, like setting the table, cooking simple meals together, or cleaning up after yourself.
  11. Encourage Social Interaction: Arrange playdates or visits to playgrounds to help toddlers socialize with other children. Interacting with peers fosters social skills and builds their confidence.
  12. Read Books About Independence: Introduce books and stories that emphasize independence, self-reliance, and problem-solving. This can help reinforce the importance of these qualities.

Remember that each child develops at their own pace, so it’s essential to be flexible and adapt these tips to suit the specific needs and temperament of each toddler. By promoting independence from a young age, parents can lay the foundation for their child’s future success and well-being.


So, there you have it, folks! Encouraging independence in those adorable little toddlers is a big deal! By letting them make choices, learn self-help skills, and play in a safe environment, we’re setting them up for a life of confidence and self-reliance.

Remember, it’s okay to be patient and let them take their time in this exciting learning journey. Every kiddo grows at their own pace, after all.

As they gain confidence, watch out! They’ll be tackling challenges and solving problems like champions. Plus, they’ll be the social butterflies of the playground with those strong social skills.

So, let’s give them the space to explore, play, and interact with their world. And don’t forget to cheer them on every step of the way! As parents and caregivers, we’re like their trusty sidekicks, guiding and supporting them while they conquer the world.

So, let’s celebrate those little victories, and watch as our toddlers become super independent and ready to embrace whatever life throws their way! You’ve got this!