If you haven’t heard about the ‘Gender Neutral’ movement yet, (maybe you’re living under a rock – *kidding*), there is a new crusade currently happening around gender neutral clothing!

I’m about to have a little rant here. You are forewarned! This post is heavily laden with sarcasm, my opinions and lots of eye rolling and tutting!

What is that?

Well some people have an issue with ‘all’ girls clothing being pink or purple, and ‘all’ boys clothing being blue or green. It spills over into the toys too, but my rant is specifically about the clothing! And if you could see my face now I’d be rolling my eyes so far back in my head they may commit me! 

I think, or at least I hope this whole movement started with the best intentions of providing more choice for kids so that they aren’t ‘pre-programmed’ to like pink or blue – cos you know, kids are robots who do exactly what we tell them to do all the time right? NOT!

So to combat this ‘pre-programming’ they decided to make beige, grey and white t-shirts, shorts and dresses, yes dresses!!! that were for both girls and boys.

Can you tell what it is yet – my opinion that is?

I’m A Girl Mom

I’m going to thank God again right now that I don’t have a boy, not because I wouldn’t love him, of course I would, but at least I don’t have to give my opinion on boys walking around in beige dresses.

They then went a step further and created gender neutral zones in clothing stores so that you could blindfold your child walking through the pre-programmed section of the clothing store where all the pink and blue is, and then at the appropriate time, reveal to them the beige clothing section where they will then be allowed to choose ‘whatever they want’ to wear, right? Can you see the irony in this? Can you?


Here’s my problem with this right. My step-sister and I are the same age. We grew up together from the age of four years old. We are now thirty-six years old! She was the definition of a ‘tom-boy’ – not that anyone would dare label a child such a name now! You’d have the PC Police tearing strips off you if you did! Anyway, you know the most shocking thing about all this? She grew up, got married to a man, (No, she didn’t turn into a lesbian *more eye rolling*) and she now has three little girls of her own!!!

I, on the other hand, wore dresses, liked pretty things and girly styles etc. I also married a man, and I also had two little girls! *Gasp*.


No, her parents did not force her to wear dresses if she didn’t want to. She was allowed to choose what she wanted to wear – even to shop in the ‘boy’s section’- MADNESS! And so was I! Unf*ckingbelieveable!

The issue that I am struggling with right now is that I feel the tide is turning, the PC Bullsh*t seems to be overtaking sensibility, and more and more people who allow their daughters to wear pretty pink feminine clothing and dresses are being looked down upon because of this belief that we must not pre-program our kids!! I mean for goodness sake!!! *More eye rolling*

My Reality

For the record, my two daughters are as different as night and day. They are 23 months apart, they are growing up in the same house and yet my eldest would wear a pair of blue shorts and a green vest t-shirt every day for the rest of her life if she could, whereas my youngest would wear a pink frilly sequined dress with necklaces and rings and carry her handbag with her every day of her life if she could.

So I ask those people who are ‘looking down their proverbial noses’ at ME for allowing MY daughter to embrace HER femininity, should I NOT allow her to wear her pretty things?

Would that make YOU feel better?

Surely if I were to make her feel bad for wanting to be pretty, that would be as emotionally manipulative and damaging to her, as that of the poor child whose parents won’t allow him to wear a dress? Or maybe he can only wear it if it’s beige, but not if it’s blue because surely then he’d be pre-programmed to like blue and that’s … wrong?

Reality Check

Everyone just needs to get off their high horse and gain a little bit of perspective! *tut*

Can’t we all just allow our kids to choose what they want instead of making the whole world grey and beige? I’m quite sure that allowing our kids to have more options as to what they wear and what colour those clothes are, will surely have no affect on them. Whereas forcing pre-programming on them has!

Surely whatever gender you are, the world should allow you to choose your own path, and we should all be neutral about that?

Just because someone is surrounded by pink, glitter and sequins, doesn’t mean they will choose that for themselves. They won’t. Trust me!

NEWSFLASH: Kids do actually have minds of their own!  

That is all I have to say on this gender neutral matter for now!