There have been a lot of posts recently about how mom’s need to look after ourselves and not get swallowed up by being a mom. How we mustn’t neglect our own needs etc. Well this is my version of that post.
We all know what it’s like, the parent who stays home with the kids or gets home from work first usually makes dinner for the family.
Dinner … easy right?
Wrong!
This one doesn’t eat that; that one won’t touch that; this one needs more carbs; that one needs less – I even wrote a whole blog post about this back in the early days of my blog: Thinking of what to feed them … Every. Single. Day!
Trying to find the perfect meal to suit 75% of my family is more complex than trying to figure out the annual state budget of a developing 3rd world nation!!
Why 75%? Well, there are 4 of us, so 1 x husband and 2 x children need to be made happy or at least not – because lets face it, moms will eat anything if it takes the burden off deciding what to feed them all even slightly)
Occasionally (maybe once a week) my husband stays away for work, and on those days I feel the noose has loosened.
I’m not blaming him for the ‘noose’ but with an additional 25% consideration removed from the equation I am free to cook a simple meal for the kids and myself whatever I want.
The kids will quite happily eat chicken nuggets/chicken pops/pasta every night as long as there is either tomato sauce or cheese with it; none of which are suitable meals for a grown man who is doing amazingly well with his new healthy eating plan!
Proud wife brag – He has lost 16kg since the 1st of January.
As I was saying … on the nights when he is away, I get to make myself whatever I want and eat it whenever I want.
What exactly do I want?
Toasted Cheese and a glass of wine.
Yes, my favourite meal for me and me alone is toast with melted cheese on it.
To ‘jazz’it up sometimes I add spring onions, or garlic & herb seasoning, or Aramat, and sometimes I even go crazy and dip it in sweet-chilli sauce.
I either eat it with the kids, and make an extra piece so I don’t have to share mine with them, or I eat it when they have gone to bed … again, so I don’t have to share.
Please don’t think I’m being a b*tch, it really is as simple as this: if I had made them toasted cheese for dinner, they would NOT have eaten it. BUT … because it’s what I’m eating, they want some hence the extra piece I do for them so I don’t get annoyed with them … it’s what’s best for them really! Am I winning at parenting? I think so!
I’m pretty sure many of you are judging me hard right now. I don’t care. Look how divine it is:
So, if you can cook yourself anything you want for dinner, without having to take anyone else’s wishes into consideration, what would you make for yourself?
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Haha! I feel you on the food issue. Finally I taught my kids to cook, so as teens they fix dinner for themselves if they don’t like what I made ?
I’m sure my 5 yr old would Love to make her own dinner, given 1/2 a chance. Lol
Definitely not judging you, we have to have some perks surely! And of cheese on toast is yours then you deserve it.
My little ones thinks it taste so much better on mummies plate!
haha … thanks. Sometimes I fib and tell them my food has chilli’s on it, just so they’ll leave it alone. I’m definitely a bad mom!
I love thin smoked salmon with cream cheese by itself or on good bread. Bonus is I don’t have to cook it!
Fantastic! I’m glad to know I’m not the only mama that does cooks for myself.
No judging, that looks delicious! Make sure to find time for you. It is super important in my opinion because it makes us better mothers. Thanks for sharing your frustrations and rewards! #familyfunlinky
So true. If mommy’s not happy, no one is happy! Thanks.
I have these wonderful memories of sitting in my recliner with a sleeve of saltine crackers, squeeze cheese and a beer! Gosh, I really need to do that again….
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Do it! Send us a pic if you do. X
Giiiirrrl, that looks yummy! I bet it’s even better with wine! :)
Kids can be the pickiest eaters but they have to learn they can’t have a happy meal every night. I’m still going through that struggle as well. No judgement coming from myself, ever!
I love this post, thanks so much for linking up to #ShowMeYours this week!
Haha thanks. I was in 2 minds whether to even post this one. Glad I did, I always feel the love from your Linky. X
That looks delicious! When my kids were younger, I felt like a short order cook. Always something different for everyone. Congrats to your husband, by the way!
I’d eat enchiladas 7 days a week if I could. But I’d say that would be a bad call in the weight department lol. Thanks for linking up to #ShowMeYours
It was very yummy.
Proud wife.
My next fav dish would be nachos … but Ive never made it for myself.
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I agree, when my husbands is away we eat Mac & Cheese 2 nights in a row. I take the path of least resistance, just to get a bit of breathing space! #showmeyours
My daughter loves toast with cheese. My wife thinks I’m too lazy to make her a proper grilled cheese, but she wants it with toast. Quick and easy, who am I to argue? #showmeyours
What is the difference between cheese melted on toast and ‘grilled cheese’? Genuinely asking. What is a grilled cheese?
grilled cheese is when you spread a thin layer of butter on the bread and under low heat grill it in a frying pan on the stove. Its not as crunchy as with toast but is worth every second. Takes a try or two to learn how to perfect, but for something so simple, its pure deliciousness!
Know exactly how ya fell momma! My hubby is on the road a lot for work so there are definitely days that I wait to make myself something to eat just so I can eat it in peace, hot and not share…lol
HE he I’m very fortunate that my son loves cheese on toast so I get to have it most days!! Still quite young he doesn’t tell us what he doesn’t like yet, well only by eating nothing. We go through the view that if he doesn’t eat it must be cos he’s not hungry!! We offer some fruit and then bed! It’s good to eat things you love! Thank you for linking up to the #familyfunlinky
You are for sure winning!!! Why does that look so much better than a grilled cheese?? Lol. Fancier even!! Love the post!!
Thanks x
Cheese Toastie dipped in Sweet Chilli and a glass of wine is my absolute fave! Do we have the same parents? Hehe xx #STAYCLASSYMAMA
Haha, … genetics, who knows? X
Why does everything taste better from mummy’s plate? Even when we have exactly the same thing at the same time, he wants a nibble of some of mine! I love cheese on toast! Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
Tuna mayo pasta all the way!!! it is soooooo yummy. Although hubby likes it also, he sees it as a meal when we’re skint and trying to spread meals out to last til payday. i on the otherhand love nothing more than tuna covered in mayo =] Loving the friends reference too! #stayclassymama
Popping back from #TriumphantTales. Thank you so much for linking up this week!
I totally get this post, I cook for my son at five, then my partner at seven, most of the time I want no eat neither of what I am making them, they both want specific different things. Like you I would pick beans with cheese on toast and whilst I love my OH..sometimes I just have no energy to cook for him after work. I have a massive hankering for cheese toast now! Thank you for linking to #stayclassymama x
My pleasure. Thanks for commenting. X
Hahaha well done you! I am totally with you though. I think i’d just eat chocolate for dinner. Haha
My other staple dinner is popcorn!
No judging from me. My daughter is such a fussy eater lately and only seems to want to eat my food. I also make extra for me because I know she will want to share it haha. I love melted cheese on toast (though the cheese doesn’t love me..), with a splash of Worcester sauce on it. I’d quite happily cook a meal for my OH and daughter and then sit with a tub of houmous and breadsticks every night if I could. #TriumphantTales
This is so true! When I make something for myself they steal it and love it but when I present them with it for themselves they look like I served up poo! My older 2 want cereal for every meal :( #TriumphantTales
Cereal – not sure if I love it because it’s easy or hate it because it’s almost all they want … that or chicken & rice! ?
Dinner times are a minefield! If you want that for yourself, have it!
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I would totally make myself a cheese toasty too :) and wine of course! I only make one dinner now and we all eat together because I just can’t be bothered with cooking different meals and to be honest there is always going to be someone turning their nose. Thank you for sharing with #StayClassyMama
That is generally how it is on nights when my husband is home, to be fair. But it always ends up with someone crying.
No judging here. I could never judge someone who craves such a tasty dinner. Thanks for linking to #TriumphantTales
Thanks Jaki x
I probably wouldn’t, I love food and cooking, but these days I am just so exhausted after a long day with two under two! But if it’s something easy, something that I can have with cheese… if that cheese can be melted.. **EKKKK** yes. #Blogstravagnaza
Melted cheese (and a side of wine) fix so many things!
I love cheese on toast and would totally make extra so I didn’t have to share. Haha, I hate sharing food! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx
haha … so glad I’m not the only mom with unreasonable boundaries. lol